Mom had been in Australia when I really made up my mind that my marriage was probably over. I did not want to hit her with it as soon as she got home and, well, I also knew once I discussed it with Mom it was pretty official. I had not discussed with anyone, other than my brother, and talking to Mom would make it all very real. I guess as time passed I just assumed she had figured it all out. When Ed came to me and asked for the divorce, unbeknown to him I had come to the same conclusion, Mom was sad. I think it hit her hard and I think she felt she had failed me.
I could not believe she could ever think this way. My Mom may have divorced my Dad, but had she not I would have never have had the amazing step dad that she gave me. The amazing family she married us into. The incredible example of what two people should be to each other. Yes, divorce is sad, difficult, painful, all adjectives Mom made sure, in no uncertain terms, to explain to me. However, life is very short and way too short to spend unhappy. I want my kids to see happy parents. Parents that are in a relationship that is mutually satisfying, healthy and that is a love story.
This is one of the greatest gifts my Mom ever gave me. She gave me the example of what a healthy relationship looks like. She gave me a step dad that challenged me, pushed me and encouraged me. She gave me, through that marriage, a sister that is amazing. A brother, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews and a truly amazing family filled with love and acceptance. She gave Abby memories of a Granddad that are irreplaceable and rare.
Mom is the nucleus of our family. Will and I are truly blessed to have such a supportive, caring, intelligent Mom. She is loved and admired by her friends, family and anyone that meets her. Mom challenges, encourages and supports like a Mom should, but it goes beyond that. She accepts us and embraces our decisions in our lives. She always tells us her thoughts on things, but then lets us live our lives. There are no "I told you so's" if we make a mistake, there is only ever love and support.