Questions for Me?

So Jay over at Cynical Bastard posted these questions and I decided to take him up on it and answer them myself. Hey, it may be a bit of a cop out, but it's my 5th blog this week, ya'll, cut a girl some slack!

1. You’re building your dream house. What’s the one thing that this house absolutely, positively MUST HAVE? (other than the obvious basics of course)

A 2 person jacuzzi bathtub...duh!

2. What is your dream car?

Hmm...well the practical side of me that is about to have a family of 6 says, Tahoe or Durango etc...but it'd have to be a brand new one with all the bells and whistles.
Just for me? Well then I guess I would like to have some fancy sports car, just not sure which one as I haven't thought just for me in so long I wouldn't know what to say!

3. What is your favorite website that isn’t a blog. 

I don't think I really have one. I am either on Twitter or Blogs for the most of my online time...or am yahoo messaging with Julio!

4. iPhone 4 or Droid, which do you want? 
either...just get me something newer than this old Blackberry (ok so it isn't that old, but it is a rebuilt one to replace the one I soaked in the bathtub and it's a piece of junk!)

5. When you’re feeling down or lonely or just generally out of sorts, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
SHOP! Hello? Have you met me?

6. Tell me about something or someone that you love that most people seem to hate. 

Gamecock football and that includes Steve Spurrier. Of course, if he doesn't hurry up and do SOMETHING with my Gamecocks then I am back to hating him too!

7. What do you want to be when you grow up?
Financially comfortable and retired, early!

8. Would you go on a reality show if given the chance?
Yes, I probably would. Julio and I joke that our family would make a great reality show...Brady Bunch style! lol

9. Who was your favorite teacher when you were growing up.  (Grade school, Middle School, Jr. High or High School only.)
Gregg Pendarvis. He was my senior class advisor, my basketball coach and was only a few years older than we were! Did I mention he was pretty hot? Yeah, that didn't have anything to do with why he was my favorite!

10. You get one pass to do something illegal or immoral. What are you gonna do?

Hack into my mortgage company's computer system and fix it so I own my house outright! Woot! Then I'd sell it and build that dream house referenced in question 1!


Ok. So there you have it. More than you ever wanted to know about me. But then, if you didn't really want to know why did you read all the way through?? :)  Now you! Yes, you! Go, answer these questions, I want to see what you have to say!

Forever Love?

I've been doing a lot of thinking about love and life lately. Pretty understandable considering what this year has brought my way. Ed and I have been physically separated a little over 6 weeks now. While in some aspects that doesn't seem like a very long time in other ways it is a lifetime.


I specify "physically" separated because we have been emotionally separated for much, much longer. I am not going to put a time frame on it here as it is not important. He and I were together over 11 years and this Wednesday, Cinco de Mayo, would have been married 9 years. He turned 30 years old three days after we got married and I was 27. I thought I was older than everyone else. I thought I was never going to get married. Ha. I look back at my wedding pictures and just see this really young girl.  I also see a young girl that was full of hopes and dreams for our future. 


That is the hardest part of accepting our separation and impending divorce. It is the death of those hopes and dreams. It is something I have had to mourn and will likely mourn for some time to come. But there is no doubt to either of us this is the right decision. Ed has moved on to what appears to be (I have not yet met her) a wonderfully kind, loving woman and I have moved on to an amazing, intelligent, thoughtful, caring man. Does it seem as if we moved very quickly?


Well, if you think we have only been separated for 6 weeks, then yes, I suppose to some it may appear to be really fast. However, Ed and I grew apart and have really lived separate lives under the same roof for quite sometime. We both knew we were missing something and not giving the other what they needed. Therefore in a lot of ways the final "official separation" was like a breath of fresh air. Aside from a few bumps as we transition into our new relationship with each other we are getting along fabulously. I do not know how long it has been since we have gotten along so well.


It made me start to think, however, is the whole idea of one person that you are meant to spend your life with truly realistic? I mean, sure there are folks out there that stay married for life, some happily and some just because it is comfortable and they don't want to leave that comfort zone. There is a fear of letting go of all you have ever known. 


But, is it truly realistic? I do not know. Here is what I DO know. I was happy when I married Ed. I thought it was forever. I thought given the fact that we were so dedicated to this for life that we could tackle anything. I believed that if we both were committed to making it work that is all it would take. I was wrong. Somewhere along the line we both changed. Or maybe one of us did and the other did not. Or maybe we realized the things we did not think were a very big deal really were. I know I am so happy for him now. He is truly happy, I can see it in his eyes and the way he is taking care of himself. 


I have moved on as well and am happier than I can remember being in such a long time. Julio is very different from Ed. I am not sure they would have anything to even talk about, ok, well maybe college football. But it is strange to me at how different they are, yet they are both people I have cared for to the depths of my soul.


However, had I met Julio 11 years ago instead of Ed we probably would not have had very much to say to each other. We were both extraordinarily different people than we are today. We were not right for each other back then. However, NOW, a mere 11 years later we have more in common than seems possible. Sure, we have different feelings about politics and things, but they are differences that bring about more togetherness, not less. I feel more myself with him than I have ever felt. He knows me inside and out. He knows what makes me tick, what motivates me, what touches me. 


Julio knows how to be supportive, when I need a swift kick to get moving at work, when I need advice or when I just need to laugh. It is not something we discuss it is something understood. 


So I wonder, how can someone that would have been so wrong for me that I doubt I would have even been friends with 11 years ago seem to right for me now?  Is it possible that there are different people meant for us at different stages of our lives? Or is it that twenty something is truly too young to marry? Folks in their twenties are still growing, maturing, figuring out who they are and what they truly want, yet society does make us feel that that is when we should be settling down and starting a family.


I do not know the answer and I am sure everyone is different. I thought I knew who I was back then and what I wanted. Of course, maybe I did. I just want and need very different things now. I do not regret for one minute the life I had with Ed. We have three beautiful, loving children. How could I ever regret that gift? How could I ever regret the time we spent together? The shared experiences, our first house, the births of our children, the football games, the struggles, all of it. It was a good life, however, it ran its course. 


I am more thankful than you can imagine that I Ed and I are able to embark on this new journey without the animosity and hate you so often see during divorce. It is the best gift we can give our children and each other.

Cop Out Blog-Questions

Ok, so I am still recooperating from my crazy, sickness filled weekend. Therefore I am totally copping out and posting a question blog. I do think these are fun, but I know they can get a bit tiresome to read. Hope you enjoy...or you can just pass on this one and catch me when I have a bit more to say...

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   1. When showering, do you start the water and then get in, or get in then start the water? Start the water first and warm it up!
   2. Do you read the labels on your shampoo bottle? Yes, I have been guilty of this
   3. Do you moan in the shower like the people on the Herbal Essences commercial? I suppose it depends on who's in there with me ;)
   4. Have you ever showered with someone of the opposite sex? Of course!
   5. Have you ever been forced to shower with one of your siblings? No! That is a big disturbing...
   6. Have you ever brushed your teeth in the shower? Yes
   7. Have you ever dropped your soap on your foot? Yes
   8. How old do you look? I suppose, as much as it pains me, I look my age...ugh, since I get "ma'am'ed" these days by younger 20 something boys...
   9. How old do you act? Sometimes older, sometimes younger...depends on what is going on
   10. What's the last song you sang? Probably, Rascal Flatts "Broken Road"
   11. Have you recently become a member of anything? Nope, not that I can think of
   12. What are your plans for the weekend? Nothing exciting at this point...
   13. Do you kiss with your eyes open or closed? CLOSED, duh!
   14. Whats the sexiest thing about Condoleeza Rice? Sexy? Condoleeza Rice? Never thought of her that way.
   15. Does anything on your body itch right now? Nope
   16. Who's the sexiest famous woman alive? Jennifer Anniston, Carrie Underwood, Emily Procter
   17. Who's the sexiest famous man alive? Gerard Butler, Toby Keith, David Boreanaz
   18. Does every family have a crazy uncle? Hmmm....YES!
   19. Have you ever smuggled something into America? Maybe a bottle of liquor from my Cruise?
   20. Does playing the guitar make a girl/guy more attractive? Oh hell yes, is very sexy
   21. Do you live in a city with a good sports team? Not a Professional team, but several semi-pro teams that do quite well each year
   22. Have you ever finished off the popcorn and ate the junk from the bottom of the bag? Eww, gross. NO!
   23. Have you ever had sex in a tent? Not sex, but messed around a bit...
   24. What about in a boat? Nope
   25. Have you ever dated a Goth? No
   26. Would you rather receive amazing oral sex or have amazing sex? Easy, have amazing sex
   27. Can you fix your own car? Um, NO. Not even close.
   28. Have you ever had a one night stand? Yes
   29. Should guys wear pink? Sure, why not?
   Ok...hope it didn't bore you too terribly...that is if you managed to get through all 29! Perhaps you even learned a thing or two about me...but probably not, these were fairly mundane questions...