It's been awhile so clearly the other day was the day for another, shall we say, heated debate between Julio and I (let me just say, we both love these tete a tetes).
It all started innocently enough, as it usually does. We have been discussing Nikki Haley, a republican candidate for Governor in SC. In the past two weeks she has been accused of sleeping with two different men while she was married. She has emphatically denied these reports, however, has not filed any slander lawsuits nor spent much time discussing them. Mind you the primary election is upon us. I say it is kind of convenient for this to come out now. Her latest accuser actually works (or worked, as he was fired the day this came out) for our Lt. Gov. Andre Bauer who is also running in the SC primary for Governor against Haley.
SC ranks 50th in terms of women in public office. Only 8.8% of the legislature is female. Therefore I said I felt Haley had worked too long and too hard to get where she was to throw it all away on a fling, a one night stand. This wasn't what sparked the biggest part of our debate however.
I said that if these men that are in public office and having affairs could just keep their pants zipped then we would not be having this conversation. I said, uh oh here it comes, that it all boils down to ego. That sex for men is all about their egos. Okay. So I should have said for most men, or for some men, or maybe for just this type of man. The type of man that likes the attention of being in public office, of being elected, of being "in charge".
I feel that it is a lot about ego for a politician. It is that ego that got him elected, enabled him to stand in front of a large crowd, bask in the masses chanting his name and cheering for him. It is also that ego that quite often makes him think he can cheat and get away with it. However, after talking with some folks, namely Julio and my Mom, I have changed my mind a bit.
I still think ego has a lot to do with it, however, I can see where other factors can play into it as well. Take for example this latest accusation against Nikki Haley. Larry Marchant claims at a convention in 2008 he and Haley had a sexual encounter. Now, in talking with my Mom she makes a very good point. These conventions are filled with people of the same intellect, having very passionate and intellectual debates. That can be quite stimulating. Add a little alcohol, which is always in large supply at any convention, and things quite often can, and do happen.
Now I am not saying Haley is guilty. I am still holding out hope that she is just too smart of a woman and too dedicated to her family to do such a thing. However, I can now see where maybe ego isn't quite as big a part. I still think it plays a large role, just maybe not as simplistic as I was making it.
Haley has said if she is elected Governor and proof is produced that she had an affair she will resign. I guess we will see what the voters of SC think today. Should be interesting.